It Can’t Be Easy Being Tom Jones — And, Sometimes, It Ain’t Easy Being His Fan, Either
Thursday, July 31st, 2008Tom and the gang are headed to Atlantic City today to prepare for the shows tomorrow and Saturday. Since this is one of the places where it seems the most outrageous fan-related incidents take place, we decided this is an appropriate time for this post. We know for a fact that Tom’s aren’t the only fans who, shall we say, can get a bit obstreperous. It happens with ardent fans of every performer. But, since we’re here because we’re Tom Jones fans, we’re focusing on them.
It looks like Sir Tom has the perfect life. And we’re sure that in many ways his life is, indeed, perfect. But we’re equally sure that it’s not always that way. There are schedules to be met, people he doesn’t know to meet and smile at, pressure to always be pleasant even when he doesn’t feel particularly pleasant….you understand.
Well, Tom Jones’ fans don’t always have it so easy either. Not that anyone’s really complaining, but sometimes things that happen are memorable and/or funny and of course they say more about the individual involved than they do about Sir Tom.
How many of you have been pushed, stepped on and/or cursed at when you’re trying to say “hi” or get a photo? How many of you have had the random undergarment land on your head while you’re watching a show? Or, perhaps, been pelted with a stuffed animal on its way to the stage?
Some fans are rude and intrusive. And that’s not funny. Some never stop. For example, there’s one woman now living in Las Vegas who for 30+ years has tried to make herself part of everyone’s TJ experience. On several occasions she has accosted fans she didn’t know and demanded information that was absolutely not her business. Back in the day, a fan and her husband were regularly able to get into a restaurant at Ballys after the show when it was closed to everyone but the fan, her husband and Tom’s party. This rude woman and her friend followed the fan into the elevator one night (!), demanding to know how the fan and her husband got into the restaurant when she couldn’t. (The Italian maitre’d liked the fan’s Italian husband and knew the wife was a fan. He asked TJ’s permission to allow them in and Tom, knowing the fan was respectful and liking her and her husband, agreed. He’d often stop at their table and ask what they were eating, how they were, etc. They always let him take the lead and never interrupted.)
On another occasion, this woman marched up to a man she didn’t know, the husband of another fan, and yelled at him “for using my name to get good seats.” (Of course, he didn’t. He didn’t even know who she was. Or her name.) Last year at the MGM — still rude and intrusive after 30+ years — this same woman accosted a fan she knew casually at best and began questioning her about why she was allowed backstage for a photo and who she knew to get there. (It was via her sister who, in turn, knew someone who secured the photo invite. No mystery, just happy coincidence and lucky stars in alignment. Also not the business of the rude and intrusive fan.)
Yes, just about everyone has a story and we invite you to tell yours. But we bet that no one — no one! — can beat this fan story:
It happened at Caesars Palace in Las Vegas in 1978.
Our Fan was sitting stageside — she took this photo from her seat that night — when a young woman in a bright white pantsuit with a big diamond ring glittering on her hand made her way to the stage from the back of the room and stood next to Our Fan. Tom saw her and came over. He kneeled and started to speak with her, but the woman was absolutely frozen.
He saw that and tried to put her at ease. “Oh, can I see your ring, luv?” he asked.
She just stood there.
Our Fan lifted the woman’s arm up so Tom could see the ring. He touched the woman’s hand and she, stunned into a kind of waking coma, just collapsed into the nearest chair.
Said chair was occupied by Our Fan.
Seeing the woman sitting on Our Fan’s lap and noticing a rather surprised look on Our Fan’s face, Tom — who knew Our Fan — said, “You have a woman sitting on your lap, luv.”
Our Fan could just nod and say, “I know.” She didn’t have the heart to tell Tom that as she sat, the woman had wet her pants.
Tom — who kissed all the fans back then — was oblivious to what had transpired on Our Fan’s lap. He wanted a kiss from the woman. Our Fan helped her stand so Tom could kiss her and then Our Fan started the woman on her way back to her seat.
It was the last time she ever allowed another fan to sit on her lap.









